You’ve taken the first step and decided want to get to know your grandparents. You might decide to give you grandparents a call, add them on Facebook or take them to lunch but what on earth are you going to talk about? We’ve got the answers for you right here! We’ve made a list of things you can talk about, questions to ask and included some reader experiences, just for fun!
Your grandparents watch TV and read the paper as well so if there is something happening in the world that is of interest to you, your grandparents will probably have an opinion on it too! And if not, they’ll want to hear yours!
“My grandma and I used to watch Big Brother and Bold and the Beautiful religiously. If someone was eliminated, we’d always discuss that the next time we saw each other. And when Ridge from Bold and the Beautiful was replaced with another actor, we talked about that for weeks!” – Steph
Reminiscing is always fun so try talking to your grandparents about the past! Talk about anything from past personal events, like the time they bought you a doll for your 9th birthday, to major world happenings like 9/11. Again, they would love to hear your views on things and would love knowing that you remembered that one birthday or outing! Even wider world happenings like 9/11 might be an interesting topic, such as the reader’s experience below:
“I think most 90s kids will remember being extremely annoyed when CheezTV was cancelled one morning before school. At 7 years old, all I wanted was to watch Pokemon. It didn’t even occur to me that the Twin Towers had been attacked, nor why I should care. But I recently asked my grandpa what he remembered from that day and how he felt at the time. It was a real eye-opening conversation, I’m glad I asked.” – Zoe
A simple “how are you? how was your day?” is a super easy way to open up the conversation. Even if your grandparents don’t get up to much these days, even the details of mundane day-to-day activities could open up an insightful conversation. Or try telling them about your day, no matter how boring you think it was!
“My grandpa, who used to walk over an hour every day before he had his stroke loved it when I told him about my race training. “Last Saturday, I ran 14 miles. This weekend, I plan to run 15.” My grandpa would get a KICK out of how crazy I was.” – Isabel
Personal and Family History
If you really want to get to know your grandparents, ask them about their (and the family’s) past. Not only will you find out what made them who they are today but you’ll also get to experience history – a personal touch can make an event come alive.
Here’s some questions to get you started:
- Where and when were you born?
- How many brothers and sisters do you have? Tell me about them.
- Did you have any pets growing up?
- How did you meet your spouse? What did you like about them?
- What big world events do you remember from the time you were growing up?
- What inventions do you most remember?
- What was your first job?
- Did you know your grandparents? What were they like?
Asking about family traditions is a great way to get to know part of your family history too! You’ll get to know your grandparents even better and show them that you’re interested in carrying on the traditions – something that they’ll appreciate!
- How did this tradition begin?
- What’s the meaning behind this tradition?
- Has it changed since you started it?
That should be enough to kick start a conversation but if you’re stuck, the Legacy Project have uploaded a huge list of questions you could ask!
Have any suggestions of fun/quirky questions? Let us know in the comments!